WOW - I ALSO lived on the upper east side and had the exact same conversation with my therapist, lol! WHAT A LIFE CHANGER it was! And even though I didn't meet someone until YEARS later, I learned: 1...To be happy on my own 2...That even though I was happy on my own, it was ok to want someone and 3...I would know if that someone liked me! I wish more people followed this advice!!!
This should be required reading. I left a ten year on and off relationship where I always felt a little confused or unsure. I thought it was me or that I was damaged. I have been dating someone wonderful for five months now and the difference when you know and when they know is astounding!
Oh, so true. I can't remember the number of times my younger self and all my girl friends talked and speculated and dissected some guy's behavior to see if he really liked us. We could do this for hours. It was actually exciting at 16 and really stressful at 26.
Loved this so much. As someone who walked away from a five year relationship because he wouldn’t take the leap, I couldn’t agree more. While relationships will have their tough moments, your intuition will tell you when a tough moment should actually be easy if it’s with the right person. I’m 31 and single and NYC and those still moments I’ve created for myself now are very cherished.
WOW - I ALSO lived on the upper east side and had the exact same conversation with my therapist, lol! WHAT A LIFE CHANGER it was! And even though I didn't meet someone until YEARS later, I learned: 1...To be happy on my own 2...That even though I was happy on my own, it was ok to want someone and 3...I would know if that someone liked me! I wish more people followed this advice!!!
This should be required reading. I left a ten year on and off relationship where I always felt a little confused or unsure. I thought it was me or that I was damaged. I have been dating someone wonderful for five months now and the difference when you know and when they know is astounding!
Oh, so true. I can't remember the number of times my younger self and all my girl friends talked and speculated and dissected some guy's behavior to see if he really liked us. We could do this for hours. It was actually exciting at 16 and really stressful at 26.
this is beautiful beautiful beautiful! required reading! brava!
Loved this so much. As someone who walked away from a five year relationship because he wouldn’t take the leap, I couldn’t agree more. While relationships will have their tough moments, your intuition will tell you when a tough moment should actually be easy if it’s with the right person. I’m 31 and single and NYC and those still moments I’ve created for myself now are very cherished.
loved this!! such a good read!