It’s funny. My daughter got married last summer and between the two families and the couple we spent between 25-30k. We never really sat down and totaled it up because.. well it’s kind of embarrassing. But that’s really about the least you can spend in the DC area if you want a caterer, a dj and a photographer. Her dress ended up being from the Anthropologie bridal store and her future mother in law altered it and made her headpiece
The wedding was mid July and in May I had been diagnosed with stage four thymic carcinoma. Treatment but no cure. My first question after every step of the diagnosis was, will I still be alive for my daughter’s wedding. And I was, and they even gave me some extra- pep meds for the week of the wedding since I had had my first round of chemo 12 days before. The week before I felt so surrounded by love as all the family members (even my brother who hadn’t flown in 25 years!)and friends showed up from the west coast. The wedding was gorgeous even though it was 95 degrees in the historic church I attend where they did the ceremony. It meant a lot to me that my atheist daughter and son-in-law got married there and it had been decided before the diagnosis. The reception was in an historic house in Georgetown and the toasts were sweet, the food was good and I even managed three dances. The next day, we hosted a garden brunch at our house and the rain held off. There is a picture of me with two of my nieces and my daughter that is one of my favorites. We all look just plain happy.
So have whatever the fuck wedding you want. Life’s short but love lasts long and brings you some of the most joyful times.
Also wanted to be clear that our pastor agreed to have a ceremony that did not mention God or Jesus. And my husband looked so handsome and their daddy-daughter dance was so good and they didn’t have a wedding cake but a pastry buffet.
It’s funny. My daughter got married last summer and between the two families and the couple we spent between 25-30k. We never really sat down and totaled it up because.. well it’s kind of embarrassing. But that’s really about the least you can spend in the DC area if you want a caterer, a dj and a photographer. Her dress ended up being from the Anthropologie bridal store and her future mother in law altered it and made her headpiece
The wedding was mid July and in May I had been diagnosed with stage four thymic carcinoma. Treatment but no cure. My first question after every step of the diagnosis was, will I still be alive for my daughter’s wedding. And I was, and they even gave me some extra- pep meds for the week of the wedding since I had had my first round of chemo 12 days before. The week before I felt so surrounded by love as all the family members (even my brother who hadn’t flown in 25 years!)and friends showed up from the west coast. The wedding was gorgeous even though it was 95 degrees in the historic church I attend where they did the ceremony. It meant a lot to me that my atheist daughter and son-in-law got married there and it had been decided before the diagnosis. The reception was in an historic house in Georgetown and the toasts were sweet, the food was good and I even managed three dances. The next day, we hosted a garden brunch at our house and the rain held off. There is a picture of me with two of my nieces and my daughter that is one of my favorites. We all look just plain happy.
So have whatever the fuck wedding you want. Life’s short but love lasts long and brings you some of the most joyful times.
PS still here. New chemo started last week.
Also wanted to be clear that our pastor agreed to have a ceremony that did not mention God or Jesus. And my husband looked so handsome and their daddy-daughter dance was so good and they didn’t have a wedding cake but a pastry buffet.
I would gobble up a whole newsletter just about how you met Ben, how you “knew”, what that felt like to feel a shift so soon after meeting someone.